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The Classic Denim with suspenders.. Simplicity is one of the best routes to go.
Bow tie by: novabrown
Suspenders by: novabrown

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“Mothers and fathers, we have to love our children more in order to make the sacrifices it takes to put them first. But one thing is true: love will always be a stronger bond than blood. Trust that. And those children out there love you. They need you. They can’t lose you. Their needs trump your wants. And that’s what being a real mother is all about.” [Dana Adams]

- ABCs The Fosters Season 2 Episode 6 “Mother” (via 4everfosters)


Playing a majestic, sexually intense, incredibly competent detective with a posture as stiff as a corpse’s, Anderson’s compelling Stella Gibson proved for many to be the main draw to The Fall, no mean feat with a murderer as gorgeously sinister as Jamie Dornan’s Paul Spector.

Perhaps unusually for the genre, the queenly Stella gets as much screentime as the murders and the murderer, if not more. Every word is precisely chosen and enunciated in Anderson’s flawless British accent, every emotion controlled, every action (and sexual position) directed by her.

‘Very masculine’, some might say, but Stella is strictly feminine, as the show repeatedly sought to remind us. ‘Thou shalt not pigeon hole this character as a man-woman’, scream the shots of her accidentally undone blouse, her slim calves, her carefully chosen lingerie, her heels, her gorgeous blonde wave of hair.

Stella is aggressively feminine. Seething with sex, sometimes cold and distant, other times emanating stiff-faced fury, her emotional and physical presence dominates this show; she gives the impression of being in control throughout, unlike the murderer who is constantly ducking, running and hiding, as her final telephone showdown with him emphasises.

She’s as physically fit, good-looking, intelligent and perhaps even as psychopathic as the murderer, and it’s like watching two leading competitors on a tennis court – complete with obligatory grunting noises.

Like a potent perfume, she fills the space around her, influencing the behaviour and activities of her colleagues, particularly the men. Her superior Jim Burns questions, ‘Do you realise the effect you have on men?’

Of course she does, although she doesn’t really care, gliding in and out of their lives like a stately iceberg in a discreetly sexy pencil skirt.



if youre in a heterosexual relationship like who gets to be the woman and who gets to be the other woman?

You have my permission not to love me. I am a cathedral of deadbolts, and I would rather burn myself down than change any of the locks.

- Rachel Mckibbens  (via mirroir)

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I am a firm believer that rough sex and cuddling go hand in hand.

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Listening to people who have disability accents


People with certain disabilities often have heavy disability accents. Their speech can sound very different from the way most nondisabled people speak.

People with disabilities that affect communication are often pushed into separate programs, particularly in adulthood. Even when they are in the same classes in the same schools, there isn’t much of an expectation that any peers listen to them. This was even more true a generation ago. As a result, most people without disabilities are lousy at understanding people with disability accents, and don’t understand that this is a glaring hole in their social skills.

Many unskilled people tend to maybe ask people with disability accents to repeat themselves once, and then they get frustrated and start ignoring them. Sometimes they pretend to understand, and smile and nod rather than actually listening. Sometimes they hang up on them. Sometimes they pass them off to another person, who also doesn’t bother to actually listen. Sometimes they hang up. If they are medical workers, sometimes they write on a chart that someone is impossible to understand or has no communication (particularly if that person also has an intellectual disability.)

Do not be this person. If you can’t understand someone with a disability accent, the problem is your skills, not their voice. (If you have a receptive language disability that prevents you from learning to understand accents, then it’s no one’s fault and you need an interpreter to communicate. Neither their voice nor your brain is wrong. In that situation, the skill you need to develop is finding an interpreter).

If you listen, and make it clear that you are listening, you will learn to understand, and you will be able to communicate successfully with more people. 

An important phrase for this is “I’m having trouble understanding what you’re saying, but I care what you are saying.”

Make sure it’s true, and keep listening. The more you listen, the easier it will be to understand. Understanding . And practice. You get better with practice.

Too many people are ignored because others can’t be bothered to understand their accents. You can make this better by listening (and by insisting that people you supervise listen.)

You are the one i’d let go the other loves for,
surrender my one-woman house.
Allow you red wine in bed,
even with my vintage lace linens.
Maybe. Maybe.

For you.

- Sandra Cisneros, “You Bring Out the Mexican in Me”(via hush-syrup)